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"You've Been Criticizing Yourself for Years and It Hasn't Worked. Try Approving of Yourself and See What Happens." - Louise Hay

Many of us are used to being our own harshest critics. We judge our actions, appearance, and mistakes, thinking this will help us improve. But has it really worked? Usually, it just makes us feel worse. It's time to try something different: self-approval.

We often think that being tough on ourselves will push us to change. But instead, it usually makes us feel bad, lowers our self-esteem. When we're constantly negative about ourselves, we become scared to try new things because we fear failing and criticizing ourselves even more.

The Power of Self-Approval

Self-approval means accepting and appreciating who we are. It involves being kind to ourselves, forgiving our mistakes, and recognizing our worth. This doesn’t mean ignoring our flaws but understanding that they don’t define us.

When we practice self-approval, we create a positive mindset that helps us grow and improve. We become more confident and willing to face challenges because we believe in ourselves.

When you practice self-approval, you’ll notice many positive changes such as :

  • Improved Mental Health: You’ll feel less anxious and stressed, and more positive about life.

  • Increase in Motivation: You’ll be more willing to try new things and work towards your goals.

  • Higher Self-Esteem: You’ll believe in yourself and your abilities more.

  • Improved Relationships: You’ll attract positive people and form healthier relationships.

Here are some simple steps to help you approve of yourself:

1. Recognize Your Strengths

Write down your strengths and things you are proud of. Look at this list often to remind yourself of your good qualities.

2. Be Kind to Yourself

When you make a mistake, treat yourself kindly, just as you would treat a friend. Understand that everyone makes mistakes and that’s okay.

3. Change Negative Thoughts

When you have negative thoughts about yourself, challenge them. Are they really true? Try to reframe it into more positive and realistic thoughts instead.

4. Celebrate Small Wins

Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. This helps build your confidence and makes you feel good about yourself.

5. Set Realistic Goals

Set goals that are achievable and important to you. Break them into small steps and celebrate your progress.

6. Surround Yourself with Positivity

Spend time with people who support, encourage you and lift you up. Avoid those who bring you down or make you feel bad about yourself.

As Louise Hay says "You've been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked." It's time to try something new. Approve of yourself. Accept your strengths, forgive your mistakes, and be kind to yourself. By doing this, you’ll unlock your potential and lead a happier life.

Self-approval is about acceptance and recognizing your worth. Try it and see the positive changes that follow. You might be surprised at how much better you feel.

Mel x 

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