For most of my life, I have been the "good girl." I ticked the boxes. I listened to everybody I was supposed to listen to. I followed the rules. And I used to think that made me disciplined, or responsible, or grown up but what I didn't see for a long, long time is that it also made me really good at something else: abandoning myself. That's what following the rules actually cost me. Because every time I chose the rule over what my intuition, my heart or my body was telling me, I was...

Last month my son Ben turned 18 and we hosted a BBQ to celebrate his birthday. I ordered 90% of the food from Costco and the ice cream cake from Dairy Queen. Now this probably doesn't sound like a big deal but the old version of me wouldn’t have done this, I would have made everything from scratch. I would have spent days planning the menu, shopping, cooking, cleaning, and making sure the house looked perfect before anyone arrived. This was what most holidays and special occasions used to...

Do you believe you deserve what you want? Not just in theory, but deep down in the depths of your soul. Do you believe things can work out for you? Do you believe you are worthy of love that feels safe, healthy, and reciprocal? Do you believe you can take up space without disappointing people? Do you believe you can trust yourself to make the right decision? Do you believe your needs matter? Do you believe life gets to feel easier than it does right now? These might seem like simple...